Over 40 Females Butler Bag and Book Giveaway
One lucky Over 40 Female is going to win:
A Butler Bag Weekender...
PLUS...an autographed copy of "What If? and Why
Not?"
Post an answer in the comment section below, and you will be entered to win!
GOOD LUCK!!
A Butler Bag Weekender...
PLUS...an autographed copy of "What If? and Why
Not?"
by the founder of the Butler Bag and TV personality, Jen Groover!
POST AN ANSWER TO THE QUESTION BELOW TO BE AUTOMATICALLY ENTERED INTO THE DRAWING
- DO YOU FEEL LIKE AFTER 40 YOU HAVE MANY "WHAT IF'S" THAT AREN'T ANSWERED?
- IF THE ANSWER IS YES, WHAT ARE THEY?
Post an answer in the comment section below, and you will be entered to win!
GOOD LUCK!!
Posted by Judy Goss at 5/16/2010 11:32 AM 
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Tags: over 40 females jen groover giveaway butler bag women over 40
Yes, I have a few "what if's". What if I married my first love? What if I went to law school? and more.... But, then I think that I'm grateful for what I have and the future looks good
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I often wonder if ,If I had not moved to Greenville,S.C. and had stayed in Charlotte N.C., what kind of life I would have .I may of married a different man and not be devorced now.
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NO! I have always gone after what I want and certainly didn't have it always turn out the way I planned, but no wondering "What If?" It's a shame to feel like something in life has passed you by, but the great news is that it's not too late! Start now, who knows, the timing may be better for a more phenomenal outcome! I say go for it!
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What if we could go back on time? Would we make the same choices, knowing what we know today?
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I certainly wouldn't make SOME of the same choices LOL but I try not to have any regrets since I can't go back in time, and just learn from my choices and/or mistakes and move forward...that's all we can do, right?
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Yes, I definitely have a few, like what if I would have stayed in college. I try for the most part to live my life not thinking like that though, because it doesn't really help me in my life today to look back with regrets. I look forward to the future and go into life saying 'why not'.
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ok i know im going to catch some static for this lol ! but i have no what ifs ,i was married at 21 ,i waited 10 yrs to have kids ,so all my what ifs were taken care of !
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Reading the recent responses, most have some of the same sort of "what ifs" as me. What if I had married my high school boyfriend? What if I had attended college right after graduating? My life would have been totally different. But I love the life I have now. I'm 43 "new" mom of a little girl we adopted from China last year, I'm in love with my husband of 11 years, I work part-time (to experience as much motherhood as possible) and am almost through with my degree. Sure, everything a little later in life - but I love and appreciate every moment.
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Yes...I work hard to have faith that my path is guided, but I wish I had finished college. Maybe married a younger man than I did. Don't love living in Florida, although I've lived half my life here now. Yet---everything happens for a reason. God is in charge! I guess maybe: what if my walk with Him had been a closer one?
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Well, I think some of these answers may want to go under the " if you could change your life..would you question !! But I will pipe in here and give my thoughts. That is what it's all about right?? I mean moving forward is the only option...other than death, and I am hoping that is a long way off. So I try to keep that in mind. " What if's I think exist in all of us. No matter where you stand in life. You could have accomplished every dream you set forth to do... or not achieved one yet. But thee will always be a new dream, a new "what if" in our life. THAT is life. That is the reason to keep going. To always keep hoping for more. That is not to say you are not happy or satisfied with what you have already accomplished in your life, but that you keep searching and growing along the way. Each persons "what if " will always be a part of them. But I try to look at it in a positive way. " What if" to me right now is just a motivator!! Something that moves me to keep going and do what I want. Not what someone else thinks I should want. Not what I should have or could have maybe done in the past... but something to drive me into being ME and happy with that
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What if you were at the end of your life and were able to look backwards? What would you like to see? I think that we are all looking for the same things in life: to be loved and to be successful in our endeavors. There is no time like the present to make the decision to go after your dreams. We are all one decision away from living the life we dream of. Make every day count. Enjoy life. Be clear about what you really want. Make a plan. Be ready to enjoy your success. Be positive and productive. Execute the plan. Imagine the feeling of success as if you are already experiencing it. Now celebrate the accomplishment of your success. We are all born under a lucky star. You just have to find yours.Good luck!
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Since I know I can't change the past, I embrace it. My past has made me who I am today, and I really like the woman I've become after 40 because of all of my past experiences. By living in the present and looking forward to the future, my only "what if" after 40 is what if I run out of time!
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What if I could start all over? Starting over means starting again, anew and I have the power to pick that day in time. I chose to start over at 43. I am stronger and wiser than years ago.In 3 years I have reached my goals. I know I have more power in my body than I did at age 25.
Today, I know what I want personally and where I want to go for the next five years. I have the power to dream everyday and make those dreams comes true.
Life is about looking forward to all the great things we can do together and with the ones we love!
to all you beautiful women-have a great day!
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Sometimes I feel sad that I didn't have enough mentoring when I was going through the whole college experience. And in the 80s, there was a lot of backstabbing between women in the places I worked. But now, at 48, after years in corp America and then as a stay at home mom who continually worked at educating herself, I feel stronger, more confident and more in tune with who I really am and what I want to next bring to the world. That includes bringing as much positive energy to every person I meet along the way.
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It is always what ifs in life, but sometimes they are better remain in the past.
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Sure at 42 I have lots of What if's,but without any of them I would not be the person I am today, because of those what if's I consider myself to be stronger, hardworking, compasionate, caring, more independent and a better parent who is not willing to just settle for seconds.
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Oh gosh YES!!! My biggest what if is what if I did NOT make mistakes throughout life? Would I be starting my own business at 40? Would I have the confidence and courage? I am the person today because of the challenges and the what ifs in life. I call every what if faith, it's challenged daily and helps me teach my children the joys of life!!!
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What if I had put myself and my happiness before my boyfriend's? I thought my happiness came from making him happy. Well, it is not too late to change. And change is now!
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My what ifs are:
What if I had never left my hometown and instead married my high school sweetheart? Would I have been just as happy as I am now having never been married, never having had children. INSTEAD, I chose to have an amazing "glam, glam" career in the big cities i.e. a Sex and The City life so to speak but not with that much sex - although the boyfriends have been equally as fun. I've loved my adventures but I wonder "what if" I had married then and had 3 kids by now. What if to those adventures. I'm now a 41 single but lovin' life despite - husbands and kids don't necessarily make us happier when we've not lived life for ourselves as well - that's just my opinion. Now I'm ready to give of my life to others...had never been before but what if I had been ready at a more child bearing age. I don't feel incomplete without having had children or a husband. I am very much fulfilled without. Daniella from Knoxville, TN
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What if I would have studied in high school,what if my teachers had pulled me out of class to help me? would I be a different person now, would I be more intellectual? Probably yes. Not knowing basic math among other things has made me insecure in some ways knowing that my kids know more than me. I did get through the system and college. I did marry a great guy and have a great family. And i thank god my other side of the brain was creative since i am a very good interior designer. So i am happy to say that my husband has to do the homework with the kids since i can't really help them with math!! lol. Be happy be positive, don't judge or assume and live this life like there is no tomorrow. Take the good from the past, leave the bad behind and don't look back. Good health and tolerance is all that matters in this world.
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What if I had gone away to college rather than commute in a nearby school...I would have been more self-sufficient, make new friends, experienced new people, places, and things, be more confident, positive, and maybe less timid and shy. After changed after I hit forty.
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There is a moment in every woman's life, when she learns to laugh out loud;
when she wipes a friend's tear;
when she kisses a child's wound;
when she mourns the loss of love;
when she picks herself back up;
and when she learns to laugh again.
Every moment, for every woman is open for the world to see. It is through her eyes we see each journey. We are beautiful today, because of the moments from yesteryear.
What if..........we open our eyes, and let the world take a peek?
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"What if?" I had never had an eating disorder, been born, or had to struggle so much through my adolescent years. What if my parents knew how to love me and my brothers didn't have mental health issues? What if I had a sister, or even a friend?
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I have several "what ifs" and they make me sad, however it forces me to make positive changes in my life now so I won't have to ask myself "what if?" in the future.
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At this point in my life- my *what if* questions are more along the lines of "how so". If I had done things differently would I recognize myself...be the same person as I am today or not? More important than the outside choices-of education, career, spouse, hometown, etc., could I be the current *ME* molded by different experiences? I think so. Assuming all the *what if* questions had relatively positive experiences as outcome - I don't really think I'd be all that different...the same person living a different set of circumstance. A more negative outcome of different choices probably wouldn't have created a very different person either...I had many negative experiences prior to my adulthood and I retained relative good cheer, strength of spirit and a positive attitude. I'm a survivor, regardless of circumstance.
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I think "What Ifs" has come into everyone's mind at some time. It is how you react to the notion that counts. I truly believe that there is a reason for each movement on an individual's path and even if it is not readily understood at the time, it still has a purpose that will unfold if you are listening.
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I really don't ask that question much anymore. I've learned to try my hardest and that the outcome - good or bad leads me to where I'm suppose to be.
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What if I can't find the forgiveness I desperately need to find right now?
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What if? is a question with no answer. It is just a thought so if you think hard enough your answer would be What is.
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what is life? what is life without kindness? what is life without empathy? what is life without love?
what is life without you?
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what is life without kindness? what is life without empathy? what is life without love? what is life without you?
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I frequently question what if I stayed in the same career and rose to the ranks of C-level, which I would surely be at by now. Yet, my tweaking my career to take different directions, I am more versatile, knowlegable and employable than working in a siloed, single focus career.
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What if... what if I had been more courageous with my life. What if... I had been brave enough to depend on myself more, risk more. What if... I had risen above my parents "you can't" attitude sooner.. I am now more courageous, braver, self reliant... and I am getting better at pretending to be confident.
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There are a number of things I'd do differently, if given the chance. But, that doesn't mean I wallow in "what might have been". It does cross my mind, though...
I was clueless as to what I had when I was younger. For years. Even though folks TRIED to tell me and I was very self assured in many areas...I was horribly unaware of my power in others. Youth is indeed, wasted on the young. Even the "smart" ones.
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